What We Figured Out in Three Years

Three years ago, I was having lunch surrounded by some of my favorite girls, laughing and waiting in anticipation to put on that white gown and head down the aisle to Nick.

Fast forward three years and I’m sitting at my desk eating lunch and making my way through multiple piles of work.  Shouldn’t I be allowed to work in my wedding dress or something today?

It’s been THREE years.

And man oh man, people weren’t kidding when they said how fast it would fly by!  There have been vacations, laughter, moves, tears, new jobs, a puppy and new family members-and tons of other stuff in between.  But one thing I know for sure about the past few years-it’s been a hell of a good time!

So in honor of 1057 days of marriage, here are 1057 things I’ve learned.

Ha!  Kidding, I think it will be another 30 years before I can give out that kind of advice.  If ever.

1.  Living with a boy isn’t like living with your college roommates.  They don’t want to watch endless hours of Grey’s Anatomy, they don’t always know if your outfit actually does match, and they don’t really care if the bathroom needs to be cleaned.  However, they are experts at hanging pictures, taking out the trash and lifting the heavy stuff.  And girls, let’s face it, we all like seeing our men use their muscles, am I right?

2.  Sometimes, getting the last word in just isn’t worth in.  (I’ll admit, I was the Queen of  this).  Think ”will this really matter tomorrow or in 5 days?”  If not, you should probably just shut your pretty little mouth and maybe get it on instead. (ha! Sorry Dad)

3.  On your wedding day, marriage feels like a fairy tale.  Then you get hit with reality when you have a dirty house, you are both cranky and the dog just pooped in the floor and you quickly realize that it ain’t going to be easy.  But it’s all those days in between when you figure out exactly why God had you marry this person.  When you make a pallet of blankets in the living room floor for a movie night or cry because you are laughing so hard and you can’t remember why.  Or it’s a day like we had last weekend where you are driving down a country road in your husband’s truck, signing along to Eric Church and you both look over at each other and just smile.  That my friends is what marriage is all about.

Here’s what Nick had to say:

1.  You are no longer an individual (contrary to what’s taught and accepted by contemporary culture), but part of the union of two people whose happiness is equally considered for, and affected by, important decisions.

2.  Stock up on drain-o (I like drain-o max gel). Plan on 8-10 gallons per year.  Long hair = clogged drains, and girls don’t clean drains.

3.  Your spouse may not have been taught to do things the way you were, and you’ll definitely have differences in opinion. Its cliché, but pick your battles, or you’ll have lots of them. The rest of your life is a long time, so you’d better be able to put up with whatever annoying habit(s) your significant other has (lucky for Lauren, I have none).

I love his comment about the drain.  Nick was truly baffled and couldn’t figure out why the drain at his condo was suddenly clogged up!

Happy Anniversary Nick!!

I’m A Flasher

Remember that dress that I loved so much last week?  Damn dress.  I was ready to throw it in the trash yesterday.

Nick and I ran to Target after church and the wind was in full force.  As we were getting ready to walk in the store, a lady pulled her car over and started yelling, “Address!  Address!”

We looked at each other and at her with what I’m sure were stupefied expressions before realizing she was actually yelling, “your dress.”

As in, your dress is blowing up and stuck in your purse you moron!

Did I mention I was wearing a thong?

Nick thought it was hysterical that I accidentally flashed the Sunday shoppers.

Well, if it can happen to Kate Middleton, I guess it can’t be all bad.

The Next Step

It’s been a little quiet around these parts this week, right?  What have I been doing?!

Getting a new job!

I’m so, so thrilled about this new opportunity.  I had been targeting this fall to start looking into other job possibilities, but when I spotted this job posting, I couldn’t stop thinking about it.  It combined all of the elements of my industry that I love-government affairs, communications and event planning-and even better, it was in a field that I’m interested in!  I applied, had a few interviews -where I really, really liked all of the staff-and then I got the official offer last week.  In June, I’ll be  joining a healthcare non-profit as the Associate Director of Communications!

Oh, and an even bigger plus?  The office is only a few miles from our apartment!  My current commute is about an hour door to door.  Now, it should be about 15 minutes!  I will missing working right in downtown DC, but I love the fact that two hours of my day will no longer be spent on commuting.

I guess I can cross one of the items off my 28 for 28 list!

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What I’m Loving Wednesday

We are more than halfway through the work week-I’m sure y’all are as thrilled about that as I am!  In the spirit of “it’s only two days until the weekend!”, here’s what I’m loving on this Wednesday.

My new dress from H&M-and don’t worry, I bought it pre-shopping freeze!

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It reminds me of another dress worn by a certain Duchess.  This may or may not have influenced my decision to buy the dress.

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Runners, take note and buy this right away-sweaty bands!  Maybe I’m a little late to the sweaty band train, but this little piece of material is amazeballs.  I fought with my bangs on every run during my half marathon training and now my hair doesn’t move when I wear one of these.  Oh, and it doesn’t roll off your head like those cheap ones from Target-or feel like it’s going to squeeze out every brain cell in your head.

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In two days, I’ll be headed to the beach for the weekend!  We have our last cheerleading competition on Sunday, so Nick and I are taking advantage and getting in a little sun and sunshine.  Yippee!  Too bad Virginia Beach doesn’t actually look like that.

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My bestie Kayla moved back to East Tennessee from Memphis this week!  I can’t wait to see her and that sweet little bambino on our trips home-14 hours apart was WAY too far!

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A mid-week “mini date” with Nick tonight.  Nothing fancy-just a walk with the dog to get some ice cream before the Caps game.  A hot guy and some fro yo-that’s my kind of Wednesday night!

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What are you loving this week?

Southern Food Makes Me Happy

There are only two words I can use to sum up our weekend: food + lazy.  Or, in other words, glorious.  You know it’s going to be a nice, easy Saturday when you start your day off with this meal at a diner:

Heaven on a plate.

I also did a little cooking this weekend and the recipes were too good not to share.  If you have read this blog for a few months, you’ve probably seen some Pioneer Woman recipes pop up randomly.  Truth is, I’m a teensy bit obsessed with anything and everything that comes out of her kitchen.  I have my eye on lots of desserts, dinners and sides from her new cookbook to try.

For dinner last night, I made her Pork Chops with Apples and Grits.  Y’all, my little southern soul was so happy after eating this.  Bonus-it’s a really easy recipe to make.

Ingredients

■8 slices Regular Bacon, Cut Into 1/2-inch Pieces (I left this out so it was a little healthier, but I’m sure bacon would make this even more delicious)

■1 whole Yellow Onion, Chopped  (I left this out)

■2 cups Stone Ground Grits; The More Coarse, The Better!

■4 cups Low Sodium Chicken Broth

■2 cups Water

■2 cups Heavy Cream (I used fat free)

■1-1/2 cup Grated Cheese (Monterey Jack, Etc.)

■1 dash Cayenne, For Heat

■ Salt As Needed

■ Black Pepper To Taste

Preparation Instructions

In a heavy pot, cook bacon over medium heat for a couple of minutes to render fat. Add onions and cook with bacon for a few minutes, or until bacon is chewy and onions are golden brown.

Add grits, chicken broth, and water. Stir together and bring to a boil. Reduce heat to simmer, cover pot, and cook 30 to 40 minutes, stirring occasionally and making sure the liquid level is okay. If grits begin to get dry, add a little more warm broth.   After 30-40 minutes of cooking time, pour in cream. Cover pot and continue to simmer on very low heat for another 30 minutes, or until grits are done. Taste and add salt, pepper and cayenne to taste. Remove from heat and stir in grated cheese. Keep warm and serve.

I somehow skipped over the water and couldn’t figure out my the grits were so dry, so I added extra chicken broth, which worked.  I didn’t cook them for an hour like she instructed-mine were probably done after 30 minutes. 

Ingredients

■6 whole Boneless Pork Chops, About 1/2-inch Thick

■2 Tablespoons Olive Oil

■2 Tablespoons Butter

■2 whole Gala Apples, Diced

■1/2 cup Dry White Wine (drink the rest :) )

■2 teaspoons Apple Cider Vinegar (I used regular vinegar because that’s what we had)

■3/4 cups Pure Maple Syrup

■1 dash Salt

■ Freshly Ground Black Pepper

Preparation Instructions

Heat a large, heavy skillet over medium-high heat. Add olive oil and butter and heat until butter in melted.

Salt and pepper both sides of pork chops. Brown them on both sides until nice and golden. Remove pork chops from the skillet and set on a separate plate.

Reduce heat to medium. Add apples and stir to combine them with the oil, and butter that remains in the pan. Pour in wine and vinegar, then whisk along the bottom of the pan to deglaze it. Cook until liquid is reduced by half, about 5 minutes. Pour in the maple syrup, then add a dash of salt and pepper. Stir, then return pork chops to the pan. Cover the pan and simmer on low for 20 minutes.

Serve pork chops on top of a generous helping of Creamy Cheese Grits and spoon the apple-maple sauce over the top, allowing the liquid to drip over the grits.

Nick said last night that he really lucked out because I didn’t cook at all when we got married and he was fully prepared to cook for the next 50 years.  I guess marriage got me in touch with my domestic side. :)

Oh, and speaking of another lady that I have am borderline obsessed slightly fascinated by, I spent some time last night watching highlights of the royal wedding.  Nick may or may not have been ready to ship me off to London for making him watch their wedding for a second round.  Happy Anniversary Will and Kate!

30 Things Every Woman Should Have And Should Know

I came across this article yesterday about 30Things Every Woman Should Have And Should Know by the time she turns 30.  And since I just turned 28, I was interested to see what made the cut-and see what I need to add to my 30 by 30 list.

Here’s the list: 

By 30, you should have …

1. One old boyfriend you can imagine going back to and one who reminds you of how far you’ve come.

2. A decent piece of furniture not previously owned by anyone else in your family.  I felt like such a grown-up the first time Nick and I bought new living room furniture because everything in my old apartment was previously owned-and also like, WOW, this stuff is pricey!

3. Something perfect to wear if the employer or man of your dreams wants to see you in an hour.

4. A purse, a suitcase, and an umbrella you’re not ashamed to be seen carrying.  Thank goodness I bought that $23 umbrella the other day!

5. A youth you’re content to move beyond.

6. A past juicy enough that you’re looking forward to retelling it in your old age.  Ah, college.  How I enjoyed those years. :)   Kayla, what until I tell Asher about hanging upside down from a boat. :)

7. The realization that you are actually going to have an old age — and some money set aside to help fund it.  My Dad helped me put together an excel document with a budget when I got my first real job-I didn’t always stick to it, but I did know when I was spending too much money.

8. An email address, a voice mailbox, and a bank account — all of which nobody has access to but you.  Well, Nick and I are co-owners of our bank account, but hey, fine by me-he makes more money than I do!  (Although I plan to catch up in the near future and hopefully slide right on by him-a plan which he fully supports)

9. A résumé that is not even the slightest bit padded.

10. One friend who always makes you laugh and one who lets you cry.

11. A set of screwdrivers, a cordless drill, and a black lace bra.  When I moved to college, my Granddaddy sent me with a box full of tools.  He probably wouldn’t have approved of the black lace bra though.   

12. Something ridiculously expensive that you bought for yourself, just because you deserve it.  Maybe this is a perfect excuse for some Louboutins to have a home in my closet? 

13. The belief that you deserve it.

14. A skin-care regimen, an exercise routine, and a plan for dealing with those few other facets of life that don’t get better after 30.  I just started using night cream, a fact that Nick thinks is hilarious.  Hey, I don’t want old wrinkled skin by 30!

15. A solid start on a satisfying career, a satisfying relationship, and all those other facets of life that do get better.

By 30, you should know …

1. How to fall in love without losing yourself.

2. How you feel about having kids.  The thought doesn’t make me break out in hives like it used to, but I’m not quite ready to give up my lazy Saturday mornings or spur or the moment trips just yet.

3. How to quit a job, break up with a man, and confront a friend without ruining the friendship.  I was terrified the first time I had to tell my boss I was leaving my job.  As in, literally sweating under my pencil skirt and tank.  It couldn’t have gone better.  Major sigh of relief-but I’m sure I’ll still have some nerves on the next round too.

4. When to try harder and when to walk away.

5. How to kiss in a way that communicates perfectly what you would and wouldn’t like to happen next.

6. The names of the secretary of state (Hillary Clinton), your great-grandmothers (I have them written down), and the best tailor in town (Does my Aunt Della count?).

7. How to live alone, even if you don’t like to.  I lived alone for the first time right after college-and I had to leave the TV on every night to go to sleep.  Which, to tell the truth, I still do if Nick’s out of town.  And sleep with a baseball bat close by.

8. Where to go — be it your best friend’s kitchen table or a yoga mat — when your soul needs soothing.

9. That you can’t change the length of your legs, the width of your hips, or the nature of your parents.

10. That your childhood may not have been perfect, but it’s over.

11. What you would and wouldn’t do for money or love.

12. That nobody gets away with smoking, drinking, doing drugs, or not flossing for very long.

13. Who you can trust, who you can’t, and why you shouldn’t take it personally.

14. Not to apologize for something that isn’t your fault.

15. Why they say life begins at 30

Creative Candles

I got home from work last night and Nick had a birthday cake waiting on me-which he made himself WITH homemade chocolate frosting.  I do believe that’s one of my favorite things he’s ever done since he’s not typically the baking type-Mr. Jochum scored some major husband points last night!

However, he didn’t have any birthday candles for the cake, so he got a little creatve:

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Yes, that would be a pomengranate scented candle. :)  

I sure do love that boy.

28 for 28

It’s official, y’all.  I’m 28!  I remember when I was 16 and thought I would be married and have 2 kids by age 24.  Ha, NEITHER of those things happened (thank goodness).  Isn’t it funny how your perspective of age changes as you get older?  I also thought 30 was when you hit the “old and grown-up” mark, so I guess I have 2 more years to go!! :)

So, in honor of turning 28, I’m making a list of 28 things I want to do this year.  Thanks for the idea Chrissi!

  1. Run a half marathon in 2012
  2. Finish reading the Bible all the way through
  3. Go back to New York
  4. Make a pie crust from scratch
  5. Plant my own herb garden (will have to be creative since we only have an apartment balcony)
  6. Visit Annapolis, MD
  7. Go hiking along the Appalachian Trail
  8. Explore job opportunities in DC
  9. Shop a little less and save a little more
  10. Attend my 10 year high school reunion
  11. Take my Mama to visit Frederick, MD
  12. Get Nick something fabulous for his 30th birthday
  13. Go to the Preakness (I wanted to be a jockey when I was little!)
  14. Make this cake from Picky Palate-I’ve been drooling over it for months
  15. Participate in the Take Steps for Crohn’s & Colitis Walk in DC
  16. See the lightning of the Christmas Tree in DC
  17. Pick a monthly Bible verse
  18. Run 600 miles
  19. Meet Prince Harry
  20. Go see the American Idol tour again (I can’t help it.  The 16 year old me that loved NSYNC and Britney Spears is still trapped in there somewhere)
  21. Tour the White House while we live here
  22. Run the Marine Corps 10K and beat my time from last year
  23. Plan a trip to another country
  24. Get a real blog design
  25. Go to Boston or Chicago
  26. Plan a girl’s weekend
  27. Run the National Half in 2023
  28. Pack a picnic and go with Nick to a winery in Virginia or Maryland

Off to eat cake!

Birthday Celebration

Hello from cold and rainy DC!  Before the nasty weather hit this weekend, Nick took me to Old Town Alexandria to celebrate my 28th birthday.  And, if you are ever in the DC area, you should definitely take a day to visit Old Town-lots of cute restaurants, houses and shops.

We started the afternoon at Port City Brewery, a new local brewery that opened last year.  I told him we should be seeing The Lucky One for my birthday instead-I’m still not sure how that worked out!  For $7, you get a tour of the brewery and get to sample all of their beers.  Plus, as a PR person, it was interesting to hear how they have broken into the local market and become pretty well-known in one year.  I realize it’s dorky. :)

After the brewery tour, we walked around Old Towne and checked out expensive home decor and art that we could never afford.  We also saw a wedding taking place on a riverboat-which of course made me want to plan another wedding.  Maybe a vow renewal in a few years?!


We had dinner at The Chart House -Jennifer, I thought about you and Martha!  Lobster AND crab cakes AND filet?  Why yes, I think I will!

I’m sure you can guess how we ended the night.  A little ice cream!  Aren’t we wild and crazy these days?